My Fiancée Used Our Rent Contribution to Fund Her Ex
Our rent envelope kept disappearing into an old relationship.
My fiancée Ada and I agreed to contribute ₦120,000 each month toward the flat we planned to share after our wedding. For three months, her share arrived late, so I covered the shortfall and assumed her salary was tight. Then a bank alert on her phone showed ₦240,000 sent to her former boyfriend, Emeka. She said he had lost his job and the money was from her savings; I pointed out that those savings were meant for rent. At our family meeting, she offered to replace half and end contact. I feel foolish for calling our rent plan joint while treating her money as hers.
The question before the court
Was I wrong to end the engagement after our rent money helped her ex?
- Demand every missing naira before discussing marriage again.
- Accept that her contribution was hers, then leave quietly.
- Give her time to repay half and prove new boundaries.
- End it now; a hidden ex matters more than the money.
The final judgment
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- Demand every missing naira before discussing marriage again.: 0 valid votes, 0%
- Accept that her contribution was hers, then leave quietly.: 0 valid votes, 0%
- Give her time to repay half and prove new boundaries.: 0 valid votes, 0%
- End it now; a hidden ex matters more than the money.: 0 valid votes, 0%
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